Couples & Relationship Therapy
When communication breaks down, trust is damaged, or you feel more like housemates than partners, therapy offers a space to work on reconnecting — or to make thoughtful decisions about what comes next.
Couples and relationship therapy with Rebecca Mistry, a qualified systemic and family psychotherapist, is for married and unmarried partners at any stage — including couples deciding whether to stay together. You can see her at The Blossom Tree Clinic, Suite 2, 6A Love Lane, Pinner HA5 3EF, or online. A couples session lasts 75 minutes and costs £95; the fees page has the details, including the free initial consultation.
When your relationship needs support
You might be arguing constantly, or you might have stopped talking altogether. There might be a specific issue — an affair, a bereavement, a parenting disagreement, a financial crisis — or a slow erosion of connection that you can't quite name.
Systemic couples therapy looks at the patterns between you. Not who's right and who's wrong, but how you've organised yourselves around the problem — the pursue-withdraw cycle, the unspoken assumptions, the things you stopped saying years ago.
What we might work on
- Communication patterns — saying what you mean and hearing what your partner means
- Conflict and escalation — understanding your triggers and breaking the cycle
- Trust and repair after infidelity or betrayal
- Emotional distance — reconnecting when you've drifted apart
- Life transitions — new parenthood, illness, job loss, retirement
- Parenting disagreements and co-parenting tensions
- Deciding whether to stay or separate — without pressure either way
- Impact of addiction on the relationship
How sessions work
Couple sessions are 75 minutes. I work with both partners together, creating a space where each person feels heard without the other feeling attacked. Occasionally I'll suggest individual sessions alongside couples work if that would be helpful.
I'm interested in the relationship — the space between you — and in helping you both understand what's happening at a deeper level than the surface arguments.
Common questions
Is couples therapy the same as marriage counselling?
Whatever you call it, I work with married couples, unmarried partners, and couples at any stage — including those considering separation. The focus is on the relationship, not the legal status.
My partner doesn't want to come. Can I come alone?
Yes. On your own, we can still look at the relationship and the patterns in it, starting from your side. If your partner decides to join later, they can.
We argue about everything. Is that normal?
You don't need to work out whether it's normal before you come. In couples therapy we look at the patterns underneath your arguments, how each of you tries to get your needs across, and the cycles of escalation or withdrawal you get caught in.
Can couples therapy help after an affair?
Trust and repair after an affair is part of the work I do with couples. It's a painful process. Together we can look at what happened, what each of you needs now, and whether and how you want to rebuild trust.
Your relationship is worth working on
A free consultation is a chance to talk, without commitment, about where things are.
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