Trauma-Informed Family Therapy
Your family's difficulties may have roots in past experiences — adverse childhood experiences, loss, violence, displacement, or patterns that have been passed down through generations. Trauma-informed therapy holds this gently, at your pace.
Rebecca Mistry offers trauma-informed systemic family therapy for families affected by past experiences, such as loss, violence, displacement or patterns passed down through generations — working at your pace, and never pushing you to talk about painful experiences before you are ready. Sessions take place at The Blossom Tree Clinic, Suite 2, 6A Love Lane, Pinner HA5 3EF, or online. The fees page lists what each session costs; the initial consultation (15–20 minutes) is free.
When the past shapes the present
Your family has its own history. Some of it may be spoken about — a parent's difficult childhood, a bereavement, a migration. Some may be unspoken but present in everything: the way conflict is handled, the things that are never discussed, the emotional distance that nobody can explain.
Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) — growing up with domestic violence, substance use, parental mental illness, neglect, or abuse — can be part of that history. In therapy we can look at how they may still be shaping parenting, relationships and family patterns.
How I work with trauma
Trauma-informed practice isn't a specific technique — it's a lens. It means I approach every family with an awareness that difficult past experiences may be part of the picture, even if they're not the presenting problem.
- Creating emotional and physical safety in sessions
- Going at your pace — never pushing you to disclose before you're ready
- Understanding triggers, survival responses, and protective mechanisms
- Exploring intergenerational patterns without blame
- Building resilience and connection within the family
- Working alongside individual trauma therapy if needed
Training and experience
I hold multiple levels of trauma-informed practice training and have worked extensively with families where trauma — including addiction, domestic violence, and neglect — is part of the picture. My systemic training at the Institute of Family Therapy integrated trauma-informed approaches throughout. Before training as a psychotherapist, I spent 15 years working alongside families in both community and clinical settings.
Common questions
What does 'trauma-informed' mean?
It means I keep in mind that past traumatic experiences — recognised or not — may be part of a family's difficulties. I work at your pace, create emotional safety, and never push you to revisit painful experiences before you're ready.
Do I need to talk about the trauma in detail?
No. Trauma-informed therapy isn't about reliving traumatic events. It's about understanding how past experiences may be shaping current patterns, responses, and relationships — and what might help you move forward.
Can family therapy help with intergenerational trauma?
Exploring patterns of trauma, coping and relating across generations, without blame, is part of this work. Systemic therapy works with the family system, not just individuals, so these patterns can be looked at together.
Start where you are
A free consultation is a chance to talk about your family's situation, with no pressure to say more than you want to.
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